On January 17, 2011 I confessed my love to my future wife Krystal. I was glad to hear she loved me back. I regret to say that we ended up sleeping together before we were married, as that not only hurt our relationship with God, but it also hurt our relationship with each other. But we did have premarital sex, and that decision would bring great hurts (particularly insecurity issues for Krystal). I had held out and kept my virginity for nearly 23 years but I slipped up at last–I fear because of all my pursuits of sexual gratification throughout the years.
But after that, I decided that Krystal would be the woman I would marry, not because I had given my virginity to her, but because I truly loved her and wanted to be with her the rest of my life. So on June 18 of that same year, I proposed. That night I took her to the play Beauty and the Beast and took her to some of our favorite spots. At the end of our date, I proposed to her at a donut shop, the same one we met up at for the first time of hanging out. By August we were married, on the 13th. But before that happened, I will share a ‘fun’ little adventure we went through.
As we were nearing marriage, Krystal decided to get on birth control so when we got married we wouldn’t get pregnant right away. She had to get blood work done and all that and she received her results which informed us that she had Chlamydia. She was so torn up about that because, since we had premarital sex, that meant I probably had it too–and I did. She felt horrible since I wasn’t her first sexual partner, and she ultimately gave me Chlamydia. But I knew I had made my own choice, and I didn’t resent her for what happened; furthermore, I praise God that it was nothing worse, for we got treated and the Chlamydia is gone forever! From all our sins, I couldn’t blame God if He had punished us more harshly; but I believe God relented from punishment and instead gave us a trial, something that could be overcome…discipline if you will. And yet He was so kind in that we didn’t have to suffer a worse disease. Next post, I’ll talk about life as newlyweds and discuss our trials through learning to be a functional, young married couple. Until then, God bless!